Although there are many S.O.B.'s out there, you are the only one like you. Enjoy who you are and what is unique about your personality, likes and desires, activities and friends.

Don't let others judge you. Live your days the way you want to. You're entitled to your thoughts, opinions, ideas, judgments, choices and lifestyle. You wake up each day determining how you're going to spend it. Maybe you have to work, or prefer to exercise, have lunch with a friend, walk your dog or just zone out. Depending on where you are in your life, there may be things you must do to survive or because you want to and others you do because it's the right thing at the time. Regardless, you decide the steps you're going to take and how your day will play out.

Don't become unglued if something goes wrong. Everyone has "stuff" that comes into their life. If you do most things right, have a terrific attitude, treat people well and have a plan, the probability of smooth sailing is greater.

Because you're an S.O.B., most people love having you around them. When you're fun, alive, interesting, enthusiastic and exciting, you are in demand. Whether it's a committee, trip, bowling league, book club or party, you'll be on the "invite" list. You may play by your own rules most of the time, but you also know when a team comes in handy and will cooperate like anyone else.

Why don't you go to your three best friends and ask them what you bring to the table. You might be very surprised by what they say. Your picture of yourself and the one that others have are usually quite different. You will be amazed at some of the things they think about you. Value what they say and decide how you want to handle the good as well as the bad (if there is any!)

An S.O.B. has friends of all ages. You probably connect with the 20 year old down the street and help the 90 year old who lives close by. Put your best foot forward and go ahead and introduce yourself to someone new on a daily or weekly basis. Out of all those introductions, you'll develop some lasting friendships. I am also sure that you are still very friendly with some of your childhood friends as well. You may only speak with them occasionally, but if you called on them, they'd be there for you.

You as a person can never be replaced. The things you do may be performed in a different way by someone else, but your uniqueness will never be duplicated. That's why it is so important to be true to your own ideals, thoughts, decisions and idiosyncrasies. You are the most important person to you.